I had a client struggling with her boyfriend’s weekly biking time. He would go bicycling for the day, and she wouldn’t hear a word from him all day.  She would call and text him repeatedly, and he wouldn’t answer.  She would feel incredibly anxious inside, just needing him to answer her.  A text or phone call would bring her huge relief.  But he was on his bike, not paying any attention to his phone, getting the distance he needed and basking in his independence.